Hi my beauties! Today’s post is something very dear to my heart and something that I’ve been meaning to write about for some time, just hadn’t figured out how. Today’s post we’re talking all about ways on how to improve the love we have for ourselves.
Here on my blog, I cover a lot of beauty and style topics but I never want to send a message out that you have to look a certain way, wear certain clothes or makeup in order to feel beautiful. I give you these beauty and style tips to only build up from the love you should feel from within about yourself.
Loving myself and self confidence is something I struggle on the daily. From magazines to scrolling through Instagram we are always thrown these beautiful images of how we should look like or how we should act. But ladies, there is no right or wrong way to be YOURSELF. None at all. That is something that I try and tell myself each and everyday. Some days it works and others, not so much.
So let’s get on with the ways to improve our self love, from the inside out <3
1. Compliment Yourself
How many times a day do we judge ourselves? Whether its about our weight, looks, or just goals that are still to be accomplished? I bet it is a lot. Try to shift your focus from the bad and instead focus on the good.
Everyday I want you to pick one thing about yourself that you love (not physical). Are you kind? Are you sweet? Are you funny? Do you love the way you treat others? Whatever that trait about yourself that you love, acknowledge it. Be proud of it. And if throughout the day you notice you’re doing that one thing you love about yourself, like being funny, take a moment and realize how amazing and awesome you really are. Doing this on a daily basis will totally help change your outlook!
2. Care for Yourself & Be Patient
I think accepting yourself as who you are in the present is huge. We all have things we’d like to change or improve on ourselves, which I think can be a good thing. Having goals is important. But be patient with yourself and remember that changes take time. In the mean time know you’re still worthy of loving yourself.
3. Be loving to your mistakes
We all make mistakes, we all say things we don’t mean out of anger, or have that pint of ice cream even though we shouldn’t have 😉 But its okay! Don’t beat yourself up, don’t let the negative thoughts overtake you. Instead, take those wrongs and make them a right. Use those mistakes to motivate you into accomplishing your goal, being a better version of you, apologizing and strengthening a relationship.
4. Be Kind to Your Mind
I personally struggle with overthinking. Like every. single. thing. It could be something from 5 years ago to something 5 minutes ago. Something I said, or wore that I regret. As soon as this happens I immediately make an effort to distract myself from it by listening to a song, reading something, or talking to someone. When you realize you’re being mean to yourself over something that already happened, be proactive and distract yourself.
5. Surround Yourself With Love
…and I don’t mean go out and get yourself a boyfriend!! No. What I mean by this is to pay attention to the kind of people you’re surrounding yourself with. Think about the quality of friendships you currently have and how they affect the way you feel. Do these friendships encourage you to love yourself? Or are they destructive in the way that they criticize others? They way they speak of themselves? These behaviors are contagious! Being surrounded by people that are loving, that are positive will help you feel good and be good to yourself.
6. Get Naked
Did that get your attention? 😉 So…yes, I do want you to get naked. Like seriously, take off your clothes. Be naked. Here me out – loving ourselves from within has some to do with loving ourselves from the outside as well. We can pretend looks don’t matter, but they do. For most of us anyway.
So everyday I want you to get naked in front of the mirror, this can be before you get in the shower or while you’re getting ready. (Hey, whatever floats your boat) Take a moment and look at your body, normally you’d think about all the things you want to change. BUT STOP! I want you to pick one thing about your body that you LOVE! Do you love your booty? Do you love your smile? Your shoulders? Whatever it is, LOVE THE HECK OUT OF IT! Yes, acknowledge the awesome legs you have or the beautiful tummy covered in stretch marks that gave you a beautiful baby. Its totally okay, its just you and the mirror.
For me it was a bit hard at first because my first thoughts are about all the things I don’t like and would like to change about my body. (Yes, I do this, I get naked in front of the mirror people!) But fight that instinct and find something you love. It will get easier with time, and before you know it you will be totally comfortable with being naked in front of that mirror 😉 You will love your body for what it is now, and for all the wonderful things it has given you and will give you in the future <3
7. Do it now
The best piece of advice I can give you is to start now. Start taking small steps now to love yourself. Don’t wait until you loose weight, until you find love, or get a new job in order to be happy with yourself and life. Pay attention to the beautiful things that surround you every day and appreciate the journey of this life, the struggles, the laughs, the tears it is all a part of who you are, and that my dear is beautiful.
And there you have it my loves, those are my tips to gain self love. It takes time, it might take some effort, but being happy with yourself is so worth it.
So in the comments I want you to tell me something you love about yourself. Don’t be shy, it can be anything! Brag away! <3